Description
For the questions after an affair
“Can I trust you?” “What happens now?” “Do I stay?” After an affair these questions arrive together, often at 2am, and each one pulls you somewhere different.
Can We Get Past This? is a practical infidelity recovery workbook by Kita Tabachka, a BACP registered therapist. Each question gets its own page, with guidance, a completed fictional example and space for your answer. The book does not assume staying together is the right outcome.
Inside the workbook
- 12 chapters and 24 practical tools
- The next 24 hours: immediate needs, support and one manageable action
- Difficult conversations: whether to take part, a focus for the talk and a pause-and-return plan
- Questions and answers: urgent facts on one side, questions about meaning on the other
- Accountability, current contact and transparency
- Your own life: support, boundaries, consent and everyday responsibilities
- Your next direction: observable changes and what each option asks of you
- A 25-page fillable companion for your own answers
An infidelity recovery workbook for the weeks after you find out
“How do we rebuild trust after infidelity?” and “Do I want this relationship?” are separate questions. This workbook keeps them apart. You sort the facts you need now from the meaning you are still working out, and you write down what remains uncertain instead of forcing an answer.
Most pages are private. A few exercises are written to share with your partner, and each one asks first whether sharing feels safe.
Who these affair recovery worksheets suit
- The partner who found out and wants structure before the next conversation
- The partner who had the affair and wants to take responsibility without excuses
- Couples deciding whether to rebuild, with or without a therapist
- Counsellors looking for affair recovery worksheets to use between sessions
Where to start
If the discovery is recent, open My next 24 hours first. Move to My question priorities when you want to organise what to ask, and to My decision page once the first shock settles.
For help with the decision itself, Stay, Pause or Leave sets out repair, pause and separation side by side. If you keep reopening every option, The Uncertainty Map works on the overthinking, and the two-workbook bundle gives you both for £19.99.
Questions about Can We Get Past This?
What do I receive?
A 130-page PDF book and a 25-page fillable companion. Both download straight after payment. No printed book is sent.
Do we both need to use it?
No. Most tools work for one person on their own. The shared exercises are optional and clearly marked.
Does it tell me whether to stay?
No. It helps you look at what has changed and what each option would ask of you. The decision stays yours.
What if I feel afraid of my partner?
Skip the shared exercises and contact a domestic abuse service such as the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247. In an emergency, call 999.
PDF book, 130 pages, plus a 25-page fillable companion. Instant download after payment.
This workbook is an educational resource. It does not replace couples therapy, medical care or crisis support. If you feel unsafe, contact your GP, NHS 111 or your local emergency services.
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