Description
Sort the values you inherited from the ones you chose
You say yes to the extra shift, the weekend visit, the favour, and resent every one of them on the drive home. Somewhere along the way you stopped asking what you want.
This 31-page toolkit from Mental Help Fairy starts with why knowing your values matters, then works through the beliefs underneath your choices: where they came from, which ones still serve you and which ones you carry out of habit. You finish with a short list of values you chose on purpose and a set of beliefs rewritten in your own words.
Inside this toolkit
- Why knowing your values matters
- Core beliefs: what they are and where they come from
- Identifying the beliefs which hold you back
- Values: inherited, borrowed and chosen
- Challenging and rewriting limiting beliefs
- Values in action: decisions, boundaries and daily choices
What a core values worksheet shows you
Your sister asks you to host Christmas again. You agree before she finishes the sentence, then spend December angry with her and with yourself. A yes like this often comes from a belief you absorbed years ago, such as “a good daughter never says no”, and not from anything you value now.
Core values are the few things you want your choices to stand for. Core beliefs are the rules underneath, often inherited from family or school. The worksheets separate the two, so you see which rules still fit and which you follow out of habit.
Who uses these core values worksheets for adults
- Adults who say yes to everyone and resent it later
- People facing a decision about work, a move or a relationship
- Therapists and coaches looking for a core values worksheet for therapy sessions
- Anyone rebuilding a sense of self after a long period of anxiety or low mood
Working through the toolkit
Begin with the section on why knowing your values matters. Then trace your core beliefs: write each one down and note where it came from. Mark the ones holding you back. In the values section, sort each value into inherited, borrowed or chosen.
The rewriting pages ask you to challenge a limiting belief and put it in your own words. Finish with values in action, where you test your shortlist against a real decision or a boundary you want to hold. If you struggle to say no, read the article on wearing a mask in relationships alongside these pages.
Questions about the core values worksheets
How do I find my core values?
Write down the beliefs behind your recent choices, then ask where each one came from. The values you keep after this sorting, and not the ones handed to you, are your core values.
What is the difference between core beliefs and core values?
A core belief is a rule you hold about yourself or the world, such as “my needs come last”. A value is something you choose to live by. The toolkit covers both and shows how a belief shapes the values you act on.
What format is it?
A 31-page PDF. Print it at home or fill it in on screen. It downloads straight after payment.
Are the worksheets suitable for use with clients?
Yes. They are written or reviewed by a BACP registered therapist for use in sessions and for self-help at home.
PDF, 31 pages. Print at home or fill in on screen. Instant download after payment.
This workbook is an educational resource. It does not replace therapy, medical care or crisis support. If you feel unsafe, contact your GP, NHS 111 or your local emergency services.
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