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Short essays on the problems people bring to therapy, each with a worksheet to work through at home. Written by Kita Tabachka, BACP registered relational therapist.

He had an affair on rotation: coping alone in Abu Dhabi

When the affair happened during a work rotation and you are alone in Abu Dhabi between swings: how to steady each phase, a script for departure night, and where to find help.

Who do I tell in Riyadh after finding out about an affair?

Living in Riyadh and newly aware of an affair? How to choose your first listener, a script for the first conversation, and where to find confidential support.

My Dubai visa is in his name: what happens if I leave after an affair?

When your Dubai residence visa runs through the partner who betrayed you, the fear lands twice. What the published rules say, a two-column practice for this week, and where to get help.

The Version of You Who Shows Up to Be Liked

Laughing at jokes you hate, agreeing to keep the peace, driving home exhausted. Where the mask began, what it costs, and one practice to start.

The Kind of Love That Lasts

The rush fades. What replaces it decides how happy you will be together. Companionate love, friendship in marriage, and a 20-minute daily practice.

How to ask for the truth after betrayal without getting a second lie

The first question after discovery is usually the wrong one. Which questions have a purpose, how to ask them once, and what to do with a partial answer.

Using a betrayal workbook alone when your partner will not take part

Your partner will not talk, or says it is dealt with. What you organise on your own after betrayal: the facts, your support and your next decision.

How to pause a relationship decision after an affair without living in limbo

Everyone wants your decision by Friday. A supported pause has arrangements, a review date and a return route. How to set one up and say it clearly.

Sex after betrayal: how to talk about touch without pressure

After an affair, touch turns into a test. How to take the test out of the bed, the words for declining without a debate, and closeness without an escalation plan.

Waiting for a reply: pause before sending the breakup text

An unanswered message stirs up fear and urgency. See what happens in the body in those two hours, and make room to choose your response before you send it.

Some problems need another person in the room. Kita Tabachka, the BACP registered therapist behind this shop, works online with individuals and couples in the UK and abroad. The first consultation is free.

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